These days all you hear about are side hustles. People with careers spending their evenings developing apps. The side hustle phenomenon has taken over. Everyone has their hands in different investments. Everyone is an entrepreneur or wants to be one. Everyone wants bigger, better and faster.
Life goes so fast. I became aware of this the day I became a mother and the day I lost my father. Children make time fly. You never realize how fast it goes until you see your children grow. You don’t understand finality of life until you experience loss.
I want things to slow down. At this point in my life, I am not consumed with bigger and better. I’m consumed with living life and making memories. For this reason, I am living the anti-hustle. Does that mean I’m lazy? No. It means I’m focused on living life.
I’m opting to keep my life simple. I have a full time job that I am lucky enough to do from home. I have a child in Kindergarten and one in 2nd grade. They require a lot of time and attention. When I have free time, I am focused on getting to Jiu Jitsu. I’m also trying to write as often as I can for my mental well being. That’s enough for me.
For the people with children that are doing a side hustle at night when the kids are in bed, I give you credit. Not me. I’m sleeping. It’s not that I don’t want my own business, or more money, it’s that I don’t want to move a mile a minute. I don’t want my life to fly by. I want to wake up, drink a coffee and listen to the birds chirp. I want to take my time with the children in the morning.
This is why I hike and do Jiu Jitsu. There is nothing more mentally calming than focusing on one activity for a period of time.
In the days where we have the TV on and are on devices, we lack the ability to focus. Having your mind in too many directions is stressful. With the amount of decisions and activities that are required in a day, your mind goes nonstop. It’s essential to take a break from it all.
So, what does living an anti-hustle lifestyle give you?
Lack of necessity for down time
When you slow things down, you don’t need “down time”. I actually don’t understand down time. For a lot of people, down time is Netflix and chill. Meanwhile they are engaging in games on their device or chatting with a friend, all while the people next to you are ignored. It doesn’t make sense. If you’re alone, it still doesn’t make sense. Unless you are focused on only one activity, I don’t understand how down time can be of any benefit. Your mind is not relaxed when you continue to stimulate it.
Hiking or going for a walk is a perfect “down time” activity. You’re being present. You’re slowing down your mind. You’re relaxing and you’re regaining focus. This kind of down time is necessary to have productive up time.
There are only so many hours in a day. Sleep is essential to function the next day. By over scheduling, you’re putting additional pressure on yourself. Understanding that you have limited time and being realistic about it will result in stressing less and living more.
With a focus on actually living life, you’re not thinking about things that don’t matter. With slowing down, you’re rejuvenating your mind to focus on things that do matter. Focus and productivity are improved when you aren’t always thinking about the next big thing. In fact the renewed sense of focus you get when slowing things down may result in your next big break. The fact is that you need to slow down to think of it.
There’s no shame in living a simpler life. It’s taken me a while to realize this. I thought my house isn’t big enough. I don’t have enough money in the bank. I still think these thoughts occasionally. But, I have figured out that I am truly happy when things are simple. The anti-hustle is simple and that’s why it works.