I don’t have any good skills

Just like Napoleon Dynamite, I need to find what I’m good at.

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I live a relatively stress free existence. I have a full time job and two children but with a supportive husband and the downtime associated with the current world situation, I have extra time on my hands. I’m not one who requires a lot of downtime so I’d certainly appreciate a good hobby.

I often have dreams of becoming so good at something, I can make a life out of it. I’m not focused on finding a new career, I like my job, but I often day dream about the possibility I can venture out on my own and start a business.

Unfortunately, that’s as far as my thoughts go. When asked what I want to focus on, what business I would like to start, where I see myself in 5 years, my mind is blank. I think about the things I am good at and sadly, the list isn’t very long. It’s not that I lack confidence, it’s that I am completely unsure of my skillset.

I don’t have num-chuk or bow hunting skills(cr: Napoleon Dynamite), so what is it that I’m good at?

To be honest, I’m not sure.

I am good at my job. Of this, I am certain. I am good at developing relationships with customers, understanding requirements and implementing solutions. I am passionate about solving problems with efficient solutions. But what I am good at outside of work?

I can talk about being a good mother, or a good pet owner, or a good wife. But I’m not talking about characteristics, I am talking about skills.

Do I woodwork? No. Do I engage in household projects? No. Do I rock climb? No again. While I have tried many things, I have not found the one thing that I would drop everything to do. And that’s exactly what I’m missing.

So how do you find what you’re good at? You try and you fail, or you try and you succeed. The only way forward is to try.

I’ve started playing guitar. It’s fun and I enjoy it. Do I want to play guitar all day? No, not there yet.

I’ve started organizing my house and decluttering. Do I like to be organized? Yes. But do I want to do this everyday? No thanks.

I haven’t gone to Jiu Jitsu consistently since the pandemic started. I miss that part of my life. But if I can be honest, I am not jumping at the opportunity to go back either. It’s a hobby but not something I would drop everything for.

Am I asking for the impossible? Does everyone have a true passion? Maybe I’m not meant for that. Maybe I’ll continue trying things and have fun along the way but won’t ever find my true passion. Maybe the next thing I’ll try will be it. I have no way of knowing. All I know is that I need to do something.

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Indian American. Mama. Wife. VP of Product. I write about personal growth, life lessons, parenting and love.

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